Saturday, April 23, 2005

The Mathematics of Love

Interesting talk by John Gottman, a psychologist who can predict with 90 accuracy what will happen to a relationship over a three-year period. And it doesn't sound too complicated, when he puts it into words. (But it is a lenghty article, so put aside a few minutes before reading it). Some tidbits that caught my attention:

It seemed that relationships last to the extent that you select someone whose annoying personality traits don't send you into emotional orbit.

Those are the couples where you say to your partner "Let's never become like them, okay?" These sorts of emotionally disconnected relationships were another important dimension of failed relationships.

One of the major things we found is that honoring your partner's dreams is absolutely critical.

One is that if a man presents an issue, to either a man he's in love with or a woman he's in love with, the man is angrier presenting the issue. And we find that when a woman receives an issue, either from a woman she loves or a man she loves, she is much more sad than a man would be receiving that same issue.


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Blogger nomadichermit said...

interesting article. i like the guy. intelligent, easy to read. i'd like to see more of his writing in the future. (hint, hint)

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Blogger nomadichermit said...

interesting article. i like the guy. intelligent, easy to read. i'd like to see more of his writing in the future. (hint, hint)

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